One thing I always desired to have was a wholesome and balanced relationship. I prayed with all my heart for this to happen. Nothing did happen, so then I added begging and pleading to my prayers. This didn’t work either.

The next step I took was to write in detail on a clean, white paper, a precise description of the person I wanted. I built a beautiful fire and made a ceremony, blessing it in my own way. Then I burned the paper with my carefully chosen words.

After a year of waiting I remained alone. Somehow I began to understand that before I would meet my true love, I must empty myself of the tangle of my past relationships. On a second clean, white sheet I wrote how my past lovers had failed me. I wrote horrible stories about them on third and fourth sheets and continued until I lost track of counting.

In a while it came to me that the stories were really about myself. This was difficult to admit but I persisted, since I knew the exercise was in fact preparing me to receive the perfect man I had described a year before. It felt good to know that I could revise my own self-description and become the person I envisioned in relationship with the man of my dreams. Everything that I had written I now gave away to the fire.

Guess what? Two weeks later my persistence was served. It was love at first sight. On our first date we went to a lovely Vietnamese restaurant and then to a drive-through carwash. We’re still on our first date because we’ve been together since. When we are physically apart I barely miss him because I feel him thinking of me. Rose Rabbit and Winter’s Promise. That’s us! It’s true love that came from the fire.